A Heaviness

Update on Eddie – Today Eddie had his first bone infusion and of course made some new friends! He saw fellow cancer fighters having intravenous chemotherapy and feels grateful he has the option of the chemo pill, tarceva, right now. Thankfully our insurance company approved the treatment which Eddie will start taking tonight. Thank you for praying with us for the approval! Eddie is understandably nervous about possible side effects from chemo. Between being in the hospital and recovering at home, Eddie’s been cooped up for weeks on top of being slowed down by the chronic back pain he’s had for months. He is restless and tired of convalescing. Following the stock market, reading, and watching Netflix occupies some of his time. We are praying fervently that Eddie has no side effects from the chemo and that he will be restored to full strength and mobility very soon!

Depression and I have had an on-again, off-again relationship for the better part of my life and I usually recognize when it starts flirting with me. DNA, my thoughts, how I filter experiences, and fluctuating hormones seem to be the biggest contributing factors for me. What has helped me manage my depression is medication, counseling, and being careful about what I eat. Depression and helps are unique to each person who suffers with it and I am grateful for what has helped me because for so many who seek help depression continues to be a prison of hopelessness that seems impossible to escape. With all that’s unfolded in our lives over just 3 ½ weeks it’s not surprising that I’m feeling a bit melancholy. The past few days I’ve felt a heaviness like a weight in my chest that makes routine activities labored. Tuesday afternoon I searched through the Bible for scriptures that would lift my malaise. Nothing really moved or grabbed me. And I felt discouraged. Later that same day I was reminded that reading the Bible isn’t primarily a vehicle to help me feel better about myself or my circumstances. While the promises in God’s word do offer me great hope and encouragement, my focus when reading Scripture needs to be Christ-centered instead of “what’s in it for me”. When I read the Bible from a self-centered position I miss getting to know Jesus more deeply and seeing God’s greatness in the midst of all of life’s circumstances.

Truth That Settles My Soul

Tonight I am particularly comforted by Exodus 15:13, You will lead the people you have redeemed with your faithful love, You will guide them to your holy dwelling with your strength. I am thankful that God leads me as He walks the path before me and that I can rest in His strength instead of my own.

Wicked Thoughts

Update on Eddie…Today was an almost pain free day for Eddie! He is clear minded and continues to make remarkable progress each day. The chemo he’ll be starting is newly FDA approved and costs thousands of dollars and we are waiting on our insurance company to sign off on the prescription. If you have a moment we would appreciate your prayers for the process to be expedited. We are all eager for Eddie’s cancer to start being treated and we are praying that he will have minimal to no side effects from the chemo.

Bekah and I have wanted to see the musical Wicked for years and today we finally did! Before Dorothy landed in Oz, Elphaba, the Wicked Witch of the West, and Glinda, the Good Witch, had an unexpected friendship and Wicked tells their story. The play is rich with witty one liners and full of meaning. A must see if you have the opportunity. I won’t give any spoilers but wanted to share some insights that I think we can all relate to. From a young age Elphaba, the Wicked Witch, searched for meaning and approval from her father and ultimately the great Wizard of Oz. For a time she found meaning from those who recognized her sorcery talent. Glinda was self-absorbed and spent a great deal of time managing her image. They both had deep insecurities and searched for significance in different ways.

I think about my own insecurities and the ways I try to find significance from people and managing my image and how those practices actually compound the insecurity I feel. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” When I started seeking to know the character of God and trusting who He is I started to fall in love with Him as I discovered how much He loves me. And how much He loves every person on this planet! Seeking God is a process that takes time and I still struggle with finding my significance in illusive ways but I have a peace and confidence like never before because my foundation is set in knowing that my true worth is found through Jesus Christ.  And that’s what God offers every person whether we already have faith in Him or question who He is. If you are unsure about God, Explore God is a great resource that shows real people who have had doubts and questions most likely similar to yours. Whether or not you know Christ you can find peace, hope, and significance in this life as you seek and grow in Him. Eddie and I would not have peace or joy during this trying time without our firm trust in God’s goodness that comes as we continue to seek Him.

So Soon?

On my way home from work today, Bekah called me and said that Eddie’s foot was abnormally swollen. I took a look at it and knew it warranted a trip to the ER. After an ultrasound the doctor ruled out blood clots and said Eddie’s foot has “random swelling”. It was a fun way to spend our Friday night. J

Our family has been in a storm these past three weeks and while we were at the hospital I thought, “Satan is not dealing with our family but with God Almighty. And in this circumstance we will just proclaim God’s goodness even louder than we have been!” 

I’ve struggled with anxiety most of my life. A few years ago a counselor encouraged me to immediately start praying when anxiety rises up in me. For the people I might be anxious about being around, the circumstances I am facing, and to continue to claim God’s promises even if the anxiety doesn't calm. In doing this I take something that Satan wants to use to make me ineffective and turn it upside down on its head and it becomes an opportunity to grow my faith. It’s not an easy process and the anxiety doesn’t quickly disappear but I am making the choice to trust God instead of my own thinking and emotions. And that’s what we are doing in this storm. We are choosing to claim God’s promise that He loves us relentlessly and we will keep our eyes steadfastly on Him which calms our fear and anxiety.

Ginger Rage

Today was a much more peaceful day for our little family! We moved at a slow pace and rested which gave us all renewed energy. Earlier today a physical therapist who will be working with Eddie came by and gave him an “A+” on all of his movements. Eddie was wearing his Explore God t-shirt which prompted a conversation about our faith and we were encouraged when the physical therapist said that he will be praying for Eddie as well.  In yesterday’s post I mentioned I had a meltdown and during that meltdown I well, purposely opened a door with great force and put a hole in our bedroom wall. #notmyproudestmoment I’ve been walking past the hole all day and sadly reminded of my actions. With Paul I can say that, “I am the chief of sinners”. But the unconditional grace of God helps me to see the truth about myself and the gospel frees me from dwelling on my wrong actions. In reading Jesus + Nothing = Everything I was reminded that sometimes the hard work of sanctification is choosing to rest in Christ’s finished work for me and not my own efforts to try and “be better”. Yesterday a friend messaged me Psalm 31:7 and I’ve been thinking about the verse a lot today. I decided to write it out and put it over the hole in the wall and now instead of being reminded of my actions I am reminded of Jesus’ unfailing love for me and what he did on the cross for every one of us in replacing our sin with His suffering. And I don’t have to try and be better because I live under a banner that reads, “It is finished” which brings me indescribable peace, joy, and hope!

Loud and Undignified

This was such a tough day for our family. As we were on our way to Eddie’s oncologist appointment our front door knob broke off and the door became useless, we found out that Eddie has stage 4 cancer, and when we got home our upstairs toilet overflowed and started leaking into our downstairs office. I broke down and it was not pretty. I was able to reach two friends and I have no idea how they understood a word I was saying through my sobbing. Within 10 minutes another friend was in my driveway crying with me and just hugging me and then about six men from our church appeared and started taking care of everything. And it’s all fixed!! I cannot express our gratitude for these amazing people and how they met us in an hour of such deep need and sorrow.

Eddie has adenocarcinoma stage 4 metastatic lung cancer which they will start treating with tarceva. He will also be given weekly infusions to help strengthen his bones. Eddie is heartbroken mostly at the thought of what Bekah and me are going through and for what he might miss out on in our lives. What he is feeling is part of the process of receiving such life altering news and he has a strong trust in God’s sovereignty which brings him peace even in his present sadness.

I have pillows under my eyes from weeping and my prayers are not quiet and dignified. God is faithful and He can handle my lamenting and I feel His all encompassing arms around me with a steady and unflinching love and He is holding me and our family tight. The reality for all of us is that life on earth is like the blink of an eye and none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. Right now my husband is with me and I can love him, care for him, and continue to live life with him today. And God IS BIGGER than any cancer and our family is choosing to put our trust in God's healing power and that good will come from this!

Looking For The Good In The Bad

He’s home!! Eddie is all settled in and soon after his homecoming from the hospital he enjoyed some chocolate chip cookies and a tall glass of milk.  He is moving slow but is getting around remarkably well for someone who had major surgery one week ago. When he was in the hospital I asked Eddie what meal he was most looking forward to eating when he came home and he said bbq. That same night our friend and bbq master Robert Garrett of Fullhouse BBQ Just one bite, and you'll go all in!! messaged me asking if he could bring us some of his awesome bbq! Um, yes please!! I love how God blesses us in big and small ways and yesterday I was reminded of the importance of looking for the good in all people and all situations. I’d like to think I’m an optimistic person but when life throws me curve balls I tend to become overwhelmed and filter out the good and really, it’s a heart issue for me. When I believe and trust in God’s sovereignty and that He really will work all things together for good, I more easily see the positive in people and situations and my heart becomes focused on Jesus instead of me and my circumstances. And God’s promises give me amazing peace and joy no matter what is thrown my way.